Ready for marriage?
Some questions are really worth asking.
It is not unusual at some time during your engagement to wonder, if only for a moment, whether you are making the right decision. However, if serious doubts persist, we recommend that you talk honestly to someone you know well and respect.
It takes great courage to postpone a wedding or even break off an engagement but, however hard, it is much easier to take action now than to live with a decision that you later regret.
In any event, you may find it helpful to answer the following questions individually:
The sharing test
Do I want to share the rest of my life with my fiancé/partner?
The strength test
Does our love give me energy and strength or does it drain me?
The respect test
Do I respect my partner?
The habit test
Do I accept my partner as they are now (bad habits and all)?
The quarrel test
Are we able to admit our mistakes, apologize and forgive each other?
The interest test
Do we have interests in common as a foundation for friendship?
The time test
Have we weathered all the seasons and a variety of situations together?
If you are unable to answer ‘yes’ to the questions above, we suggest you discuss your feelings with someone other than your partner!
Adapted from The Rules Of Engagement by Katharine and Richard Hill, referencing The Marriage Preparation Course Manual (Alpha International) and I Married You by Walter Trobisch (IVP 1973)
Written by Katharine and Richard Hill. Posted on 26th October.
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Author Katharine and Richard Hill
Posted 26.10.07
