Ten things about dating
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...that you just have to learn the hard way
- Sometimes, they just don't ring you. Even when they say they will. Even when you can so clearly see the potential...sometimes they can't.
- Mostly when you are dumped it is not because they need space/are struggling to commit/can't see this going anywhere/think you are too good for them. It's cos they don't fancy you anymore, or have realised they never did. But really, once you realise this and you realise the world has not stopped turning, it is so much easier to move on.
- Flirting is hard work. Appearing naturally beautiful, effortlessly at ease and coolly disinterested takes a lot of effort. Like PE at school, you can work at it but some people will always be better at it than others.
- Technology has done our sanity no favours. When you like someone, you will lose many valuable hours in the day staring at your phone, composing text messages (which you don't send), trying to come up with an excuse to get in touch, looking them up on facebook/myspace/bebo/msn (or if you're old school, friends reunited), googling them and devising more and more ingenious ways of finding out what they are up to without actually making contact. It's called stalking.
- When you eventually do make contact, it is likely to be an impulsive text which you will spend the next fortnight regretting.
- Kissing your friends is generally a bad idea. Platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex does exist and can be achieved, but it's rarer than you think.
- Beware of 'going out' with your friends. See above.
- The thing about married people either treating you as a non-existent, a sympathy case, one half of a matchmaking project, or a threat to their union is a bit of a myth. Some do that. Most, if they are good friends, will trust you, will let you have independent relationships with both parties, and will remember that you are single. Sometimes though, you will just feel jealous of them.
- Occasional despair and fear of dying alone is just part of the territory when you're single. You get used to it.
- Nobody's perfect. If you do find the love of your life, they will drive you crazy by being too neat/too messy/spending too much money/always being late/flirting with your friends/forgetting anniversaries and crashing your car. But you should never let go of the idea that they might be perfect for you.
Written by Naomi D.. Posted on 26th October.
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