Vicky Biccy's Blog

When there's nothing left to say...

Recently I’ve been able to catch up with my friends and family, and I’ve loved it. I’ve been for long walks and cups of coffee, and sat at the kitchen table, on a park bench, or in a car, just talking. For the first time in a long time I feel like I really know what’s going on in their lives. Sadly, a lot of it is not good.

Within a small group of people I love, there are a lot of broken hearts, bereavements, redundancies and stress, be it through pressures of work or the financial stress of not enough work. Time and again over the last two weeks I have reached the point when there is just nothing left to say.

I wish I had a magic wand that could dry up tears and fix problems. Unfortunately, all I have is myself. But I think what matters most is just being there. Sometimes I can give advice. Sometimes the words ‘It’ll be alright’ do bring hope. But often I just need to listen as they speak out the cycle of thoughts again and again, trying to find a way through. There comes a point when all you can do is sit in silence with someone who is hurting, to save them from hurting on their own.

I know that tomorrow is a new day, the sun will shine again, broken hearts will mend with time and solutions can be found to even the most complex problems. But in the meantime, I guess my job is to be a friend.
 

Created on Thu 4th June 2009 13:28